Do you find you dislike yourself at times, and blame your stammering for it?
I know I used to. I really didn't like myself. I was extremely insecure. I felt totally stuck with no hope. I felt people wouldn't accept me because of my stammering.
Looking back on my life, there were people who may have picked up on my negative vibes, and kindly offered advice with good intentions, such as "You have to like yourself first" Or "You have to respect yourself before others will".
I really didn't like hearing this said to me. The most frustrating thing was, I didn't know how to like myself! "It's easy for you to say!", I would think to myself.
Over the years, I have developed a far stronger sense of self. This I did through putting myself into 'scary' situations such as presenting at conferences. I did this through public speaking. I forced myself to walk up to total strangers on the street and start conversations. I learnt to be more sociable and talkative with the blocking.
I used positive affirmations - a classic self-talk technique designed to help build confidence, increase motivation and self-esteem. I have used positive self-talk for about 5 years and do so even now, every morning. "I like myself", I say with conviction. "I'm going to have a great day", I state with a smile on my face. I'm beginning to talk normally", I repeat.
Are you tired of disliking yourself? Are you fed up of beating yourself up?
Then I'm going to tell you something so profound, which is "STOP". Really mind-blogging huh? :-)
The only person you are hurting is yourself.
Tell yourself, "I love myself no matter what". You will always be kind to yourself. You will accept yourself completely, with stammering or no stammering.
Respecting and caring for others is a wonderful thing. But respect and love yourself first. Do this and the world will change around you...
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